Should You Quit Your Job To Stay Home?

This is one of those topics that I think about time and again  I like the idea of being independent and working, but I also like the idea of staying home with my kids, I guess I am one of those women who could have gone either way if given the opportunity, but the idea of staying home was never presented to me growing up.  How many of you reading this could have gone either way as well?  Staying home with kids was just not presented as an equally viable option as becoming a career woman.  I am a GenXer, so I guess in my younger years women were just gaining traction in the workplace, and no woman then was going to tell her daughter to stay home…PERISH THE THOUGHT!  Well, the pendulum has swung the other way quite a bit, and women are now enjoying lives on both sides of the coin.

I know many will be thinking, well, if we didn’t work and gain independence, then what would happen if the men in our lives reach mid-life and decide to get the latest and greatest “model”?  That must have been one of the fears and motivators that drove women into the market place.  So if there are any men reading this, yes, you have yourselves to thank 🙂

So, as I think about me having a career, what will I tell my daughter about having a career and the option of becoming a stay at home mom? I think I will tell her it’s a choice, one that can be made if well though through, I would recommend however that she gets educated before making that choice, so that she can be a true equal in marriage, and of course have some options if things don’t go as planned. Although I like working, as I talk to my kids, we discuss the pros and cons of being a working mom, they know that I have no guilt, but they also know sometimes I wish I had all major holidays with them, like teachers do. I hope my kids will see either choice as possibilities, and choose wisely, and we can help them by giving them the facts as we know it.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to put moms out there on a guilt trip, if we need to work, we must, and like me I am sure some of you absolutely love your job.  I just wonder sometimes what career, if any, I would have chosen if that other option was presented.

What are your thoughts?


  1. My response to that is to do what makes sense for the family. If working outside of the home brings financial balance and sanity to the family, it may be worthwhile to pursue that route. However, if one has to deplete one’s savings and hard earned dollar to secure a nanny( a nightmare sometimes) or other out of reach child care services, it can be a financial drain and emotional rollercoaster , unfortunately. Having said that, many people enter the work force for several reasons, such as financial security, independence, sense of wellbeing and self enrichment and others choose to stay home for reasons best known to them. Whatever the choice may be, it is always good to have a backup plan for unforeseen life storms. One can’t go wrong with a reasonable marketable degree. Personally, l have enjoyed the peace of mind my career has brought to me but having worked for over 10 years in the health care industry, l really would appreciate a break from work. It can be extremely stressful to juggle household responsibilities and career obligations. Oh! How l long to relax in my backyard while my face is caressed by the gentle stroke of the wind and the melodic chimes of the birds, while the kids are off to school. I would love to curl up and enjoy my favorite shows without feeling the guilt pang in my stomach, go out in the community and volunteer my talent without feeling mentally and physically wiped out from the stresses of today’s job market! Of course, enjoy my family. Well, enough said.

    • Well said, Nena. Whose idea was women’s lib anyway?
      Anyway fun aside, I love my job, and the choices that I have made. However, I do wish sometimes that we could have a 50/50 split.

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